Congrats! How exciting!
Unsolicited advice for the earliest weeks? Stay the hell off the internet, you will only worry about every. single. thing. Take care of yourself. Sleep a lot - the first trimester fatigue does not fuck around. Don’t worry about whether people can tell you are pregnant (your little bitty bloat that you think is enormous and obvious is not even noticeable to other people). Wear all your fitted regular clothes. Get really good at fake drinking. Eat a giant turkey sandwich or sushi before your first doctor’s appointment and they tell you that you shouldn’t (my doc is really liberal with that stuff, but many aren’t). Invest in a maternity pillow (I love my snoogle) before you actually need it.
As for your question, I found most books and websites to not be very helpful (looking at you, What To Expect While You’re Expecting). Websites are good for getting information on a specific question, but not much else. Although, I will say that if you want to feel better about yourself, particularly if you’re feeling a bit crazy from the hormones, perusing the Babycenter boards are a good self esteem booster and highly entertaining.
The books I’ve found to be useful are:
Expecting Better. Along the turkey sandwich/sushi lines, this book breaks down the relative risk factors for all those pregnancy “rules” you hear so much about, and the author encourages moms-to-be to weigh those risk factors against the potential consequences and their personal needs. For example, the risk of listeria from lunch meat is actually really low (the last significant outbreaks were from cantaloupe, peaches and hummus, but you don’t hear of doctors telling you not to eat fruit), but the consequences can be really bad. She just provides the information, and leaves it to you to decide for yourself, without the sanctimommy judgment.
Baby 411. Newborns For Dummies. If you’re a first time mom (and I’m guessing you are since you want to read books), this provides a really good overview of how babies work.
Baby Bargains. The authors rate every piece of equipment ever invented for babies - an all-inclusive Consumer Reports type thing. The amount of shit babies need is crazy, and the amount of options in each category is even crazier. It was nice to have the research for everything in one book for registering.
Mayo Guide To Pregnancy. Clinical, but moderately useful. Nothing you can’t look up online, but a friend gave this book to me.
Happiest Baby On The Block. M read this first, and described the technique as “So, you wrap the baby up super tight, grab it by its head, shake it and shush as loud as you can in its face.” The actual technique is a tamer version that will NOT get Child Protective Services called on you, but the gist is what he described. Friends have sworn by it. Apparently, there is also a video on You Tube that you can watch if you don’t want to read/buy the book.
Hope that helps! All my best for a healthy & happy 40 weeks!
Any veteran moms want to chime in?